Author: londavis@hotmail.com

Everybody needs somebody. There is a great verse in Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

“Two are better than one.”

Wait! That doesn’t seem right. We live in an age that emphasizes doing things yourself and being self-sufficient. Despite this modern philosophy, it is right.

The wise man continues with this verse to explain, “If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”

Sometimes we all need help. I read a cute story that emphasizes this.

An out-of-towner drove his car into a ditch in a desolated area. Luckily, a local farmer came to help with his big strong horse, named Buddy. He hitched Buddy up to the car and yelled, “Pull, Nellie, pull!” Buddy didn’t move. Then the farmer hollered, “Pull, Buster, pull!” Buddy didn’t respond. Once more the farmer commanded, “Pull, Coco, pull!”

Nothing.

Then the farmer nonchalantly said, “Pull, Buddy, pull!” And the horse easily dragged the car out of the ditch. The motorist was most appreciative and very curious. He asked the farmer why he called his horse by the wrong name three times.

The farmer said, “Oh, Buddy is blind and if he thought he was the only one pulling, he wouldn’t even try.”

A funny story but it really does illustrate how we all need someone. We need someone to pick us up when we fall. We need someone to help us work when we are discouraged or tired.

I believe this truth is why the Hebrew writer said, “Forsake not the assembling of yourselves together.” (Heb 10:25). We are made for family. We are made for pairing and grouping. We are strongest when we assemble together for whatever our cause is.

So, who is your somebody? Find that one and be loyal to them. Be a friend. Be a family. Be that someone that not only needs them, but the someone they need too.

Team up and then “Pull Buddy pull.”

Lonnie Davis

Have you read the book, “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus?” That is a cute title, but the book got it wrong. It’s not that close!

Men and women are completely different species. Since we are so different, how do we learn about each other? It is complicated. Truthfully, no one really knows the person they marry. If they think they do, wait 10 years and ask them if they knew each other when they first married. The secret to a good marriage is that marriage is not about marrying the person you love, but loving the person you marry.

Along the marriage journey there are many lessons to be learned. The first lesson is this: “Your marriage is not your parent’s marriage.” I know, I know, one thing you wanted was a marriage that was different than your parents. Whatever your intentions, when you first married you probably had expectations learned from watching marriages around you. Even that of your parents.

I remember learning this in my own marriage. When I was a kid, money sometimes got tight around the house and even ten dollars could make a difference. When things got hard, my dad would go to mom and ask if she had any money hidden away. Amazingly, she often did. Mom had a practice of saving a few dollars here and there and then hoarding it away for a rainy day.

When Liz and I got married, I thought that is what wives did. We were both in college and finances were tight. The first time we ran out of money, I asked my wife and asked if she had any money hidden away. She looked at me like I was from Pluto or maybe was Pluto. In her house that is not what happened and that is not what she did.

I did not explain all this to her at the time, but I learned that she and I would have our own marriage. It turns out that it was better because it was ours. Through the years there have been many more lessons, but this was the first one. Our marriage was our own and would be what we make it.

Lonnie Davis

Sometimes I identify with Jesse James, you know the gunslinger of the old west. Let me explain.

When I lived in Virginia, every year I dreaded the first week of April. On the first day of April, I would start driving like a criminal. I don’t mean I drive fast or recklessly. I mean I would drive down the street very cautiously and look for hidden policemen around every corner. You see, my inspection sticker expired at the end of March. I had a whole month to get my car inspected, but sometimes I didn’t notice it is expired, sometimes I would forget, and sometimes I was going to do it tomorrow.

So, for several days I would drive like a criminal. Finally, several days into April, I would get a new sticker. It took all of 30 minutes and I got to sit and read while they did it. I always vowed that next year I would be better. 

There are a couple of lessons I learned from this experience:

#1. Procrastination never does any good. 

I’ve never saved a dime by having an expired sticker, but I have had to take time out of my day, drive to the courthouse, and show the lady behind the window my receipt for my new sticker. Ugh! I would not have had to do this if I had only handled things in a more timely way. Remember, that which you do immediately you actually do!

#2. There is joy in a clear conscience. 

Conscience is not our only guide, but your conscience has to be right. Solomon wrote, “The wicked man flees though no one pursues, but the righteous are as bold as a lion.” (Pro 28:1)  A tainted conscience will make you do things that are unhelpful and may be downright hurtful to your journey.

After getting the new inspection sticker, when you pull out of the parking lot with that new sticker all neatly installed it feels really good. It doesn’t feel good to drive like a criminal.

~Lonnie Davis

I love the fellow who told an atheist, “Sir, you are worse than a fool.” Then he explained, “The Bible says ‘The fool has said in his heart there is no God.’ You are worse than that. You have said it out loud.” 

Ruth Green is one such example of atheism. 

Ruth Green was born in 1912. In the early 1960s she was stricken by cancer and decided to read the Bible “cover to cover.” 

Ms. Green claims to have been brought up as a Christian, but after two years of reading the Bible “cover to cover,” she decided that there is no God. Shortly thereafter she wrote a book called “The Born Again Skeptic’s Guide to the Bible.” 

In the midst of her ranting about “no God” she wrote, “I am pleased as punch no longer to believe in a God…who can choose his companions in eternity and prefers Jerry Falwell and Tammy Bakker over Albert Einstein and Marie Curie.”

One obvious response to her is to note how brilliant she must be to rant against the ignorance of silly men like Sir Isaac Newton, Nicholas Copernicus, Sir Francis Bacon, Galileo, and Albert Einstein. All of these men believed in God.  Ruth Green thought she was too brilliant to believe what those men believed.

Ruth Green was not unlike many atheists today.  She learned a little and thought she learned a lot. Alexander Pope wrote, “A little learning is a dangerous thing.” It still is.

In 1981 Ruth Green committed suicide. Godlessness is hopelessness.

~Lonnie Davis

Having only had old-fashioned wood-burning fireplaces, when Liz and I moved into our Virginia house, I was excited to see that it had gas logs. No more would I have to haul wood. No longer would I have to smell smoke in the house. Never again did I have to fool with an old-fashioned wood fireplace.

When the first cold front hit, we hit the gas fireplace. It was beautiful. I turned it high enough so that I could see the flames dancing. The warmth in the room was amazing. Midway through the second month something else hit – the gas bill. It was huge! I figured they got it wrong and kept using the fireplace while I waited for the next bill to normalize. The next bill arrived and it turned out that the high bill was normal. Since then those gas logs are mainly used as decoration.

Later, I looked at that seldom-used fireplace and thought about the lessons from the fireplace. Here are two great lessons:

Lesson 1. A person usually does the wrong things until learning better. Ignorance is not bliss. I used the gas logs during the first and second months but then I learned the lesson. I now use them only sparingly.

Lesson 2. If one keeps doing the wrong things, one must be ready to pay the bill. I paid the bill until I came to grips with the lesson. One can drive fast, burn gas logs, or waste money, but those who do must pay the price. The bill will come due. Remember what John Wayne said, “Life is hard; it’s harder when you’re stupid.” (Sands of Iwo Jima, 1949).

We had that fireplace for many more years and seldom used it. I guess the gas still worked. It is only a guess because I wouldn’t know for sure.

I learned the lesson! What lesson have you learned the hard way?

~Lonnie Davis

Imagine you are standing in front of a blank canvas, with a palette full of colors and a brush in your hand. You have the freedom to paint whatever you want on this canvas – you are the architect of your own creation. In the same way, you are the architect of your own life and happiness.

If we doubt this, reflect on the words of Jesus, “Ask and it shall be given unto you. Seek and you will find. Knock and the door will be opened to you.” (Matthew 7:7-8)

With God’s help, you do create your own picture. Even if you are 40 or 80, you still have a blank canvas called the future. What will you paint? What will you do? What will you ask of God?

The choice is yours. 

God has conspired with you to make it so. I love the haunting words from “Life’s Scars” by Ella Wheeler Wilcox. 

“I bargained with life for a penny,
And life would pay no more,
However, I begged at evening
When I counted my scanty store;

For life is just an employer,
He gives you what you ask,
But once you have set the wages,
Why, you must bear the task.

I worked for a menial’s hire,
Only to learn, dismayed,
That any wage I had asked of life,
Life would have willingly paid.”

Lonnie Davis

I call them “Wise-Words.”

You know, those words that are so wise that you feel like they must be in the Bible somewhere. 

Here is one of my favorite: “A luxury once tried becomes a necessity.” In my family, I can start that quote and any of them can finish it. I thought about this truth a lot during the 2008 Olympics. I enjoy watching it on my plasma television in high definition. I cannot imagine watching it on an old black-and-white television or even a 32-inch color TV.

It was long ago, but I remember once when a friend used the phone in our house and was talking to his wife. I heard him say, “They even have a color TV.” Now that which seemed to wonderful to him has become a common possession. We can’t go back to how things used to be. So here is that Wise-word, “A luxury once tried becomes a necessity.” We get so used to luxury that it becomes ordinary to us.

I read about one young bride who was showing her great-grandmother all of the modern conveniences in her kitchen. She showed her a garbage disposal, dishwasher, ice maker, and trash compactor. When she got through she asked her great-grandmother which modern convenience she liked best. Her great-grandmother replied, “I think I like running water the best.”

Not only does a luxury once tried become a necessity, but it also becomes an expectation and an entitlement. We must remember to be appreciative or else our possessions will possess us.

Lonnie Davis

Some of you remember the famous “Cookies Monster.”

In one of his scenes, he is set up to decide between three doors. He can have door #1, which is a beautiful mansion, door #2, which is a million dollars, or finally, door #3, which is a cookie. True to his name, you know what he chose. He chose the cookie!

Life gives us many such choices. We get to choose between the good and the bad, or even the good and the best. We choose between the easy thing and the right thing. We chose between healthy food and fast food. Honestly, this list could be expanded to every time we have to choose to read, exercise, rest, play, study, or whatever. Life is filled with the choices we get to make.

Wisdom is the ability to make the right choice. Where you are in life and where you will be tomorrow is all about your willingness to make the right choices. Unfortunately, too often I have chosen the cookie.  

The brother of Jesus, James said, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” (James 1:5).

For more than 50 years I have told people that I wanted to grow to be a wise old man. I wish I had been a wiser young man, but as long as I have life, I can still hope for that final goal. Maybe today’s thought will remind us of the need to be wise and not to choose the cookie.

Lonnie Davis

Do you remember the “Easy Button?” Serval years ago, a business promoted its ability to fill your needs by talking about how using them is having an easy button.

I love the “Easy Button.” I wish that every time I had a job to do or faced a difficult task I could just hit an easy button and everything would magically get better. Unfortunately life does not work that way. 

In 425 B.C. any businessman could have sold many such “Easy Buttons” to the Jews living in Jerusalem. In those days Cyrus of Persia allowed Nehemiah to return to Israel to rebuild the walls of Jerusalem. As the Jewish people began to rebuild the walls, the nations around them began to threaten them. Fearing attack, they could have made the threat go away by simply quitting the great work. Instead they chose something else. They chose to fight through the threats. The Bible tells us, “Those who carried materials did their work with one hand.” (Nehemiah 4:17a) Why would they work with only one hand? The Bible gives us the answer. They worked with one hand and “held a weapon in the other.” (4:17b)

They did what they had to do to get done what had to be done.

Anytime you start to do something great you will always find people who will try to stop you. The reasons vary from jealousy to who knows what. Great workers know they have to overcome great obstacles. It was true in 425 BC and it is still true today.

If you are not struggling in your work, then you are not challenging yourself. For true greatness there is no “easy button.”

~Lonnie Davis