It was more than twenty-five years ago that I found myself estranged from a dear friend. We hadn’t spoken very much for a couple of years, and it felt sad to me. I thought he had said some hurtful things about me, but that didn’t matter. I finally got in my car and drove two hours to his house. With gentleness on both of our parts, we talked it out. I left him with these words, “My friend: we’re too old to make new lifetime friends.” In our discussion with each other, we discovered that each of us could have done better. Our friendship was restored. We will be friends for the rest of our lives and throughout eternity.
What I did was not my wisdom, but the wisdom of Matthew 18:15.
“If your brother sins against you, go and confront him privately. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over.”
When someone wrongs you, Jesus commands you to go to them privately, not wait for their apology or involve others. Going alone protects the relationship’s chance for restoration. Approach with gentleness, not to win an argument but to win back a brother, reflecting Christ’s own heart.
I’m Lonnie Davis, and these are thoughts worth thinking.